i’d sure like to know, if y’all have some tips.
i feel like it has been long enough (3 1/2 years) that this shouldn’t be happening!! i want some control over my damn mind and body, already. it isn’t that my boyfriend is pressuring me. i’m just as up for it as he is. but i start to have my old panic attack symptoms when penetration starts, so we stop, i go home and punch stuff, and he feels awful.
the only way i have managed to have consensual sex, is once, i drank 6 beers. i hardly remember anything. my boyfriend felt really bad about it and didn’t want to try anything for a few weeks. (i quit drinking in august.)
but i am determined to have control over my body and have some damn sex if i want to.
is there anyone here who has actually has a good sex life now? how did you do it? did it get better with time?
#1 by darlin12009 on September 25, 2009 - 10:42 pm
i have had this happen, a long time ago. it does take a long time. what made mine worse was that it was my best friend’s husband, we weren’t on a date, i was just visiting, and she went out with her boyfriend. whole other story
but, it took a while to get over.
the suggestions of seeking counseling group or individual, is a good idea.
sounds weird, but somehow you need to forgive the creep. as long as you hold that anger, that person still has control over you, and you have a great partner now, to be able to deal with this too.
in the past, the way i deal with traumatic things, is to write my feelings down, in letter form, get them all out..then burn the letter to let it go..
wish you and your partner the best
blessings..